Thursday, August 26, 2010

Writing Workshop/Pour Your Heart Out--Letting Go

Mama's Losin' It
The Prompts:

1.) Your childhood neighborhood.
2.) I was holding on tight but…
3.) “It was as if an invisible thread hooked her to her boy. The thread could go taut or slack but it could never come undone, it could never reach the end of its spool because there was no end; it bound them forever.” What does unconditional love mean to you?
(inpired when a mother is forced to give her baby up in The Seamstress by Frances De Pontas Peebles)
4.) Can it be saved? Think of something that is ruined when it’s totally wet: like a newspaper or a piece of cheese. Write a scene (truth or fiction) that involves you and a soaked item.
(inspired by writingfix.com)
5.) What five images paint a perfect picture of summer to you? Put those five images together in a piece of writing.
(inspired by writingfix.com)

Prompt 2:
I was holding on tight but... I learned that letting go can be the best thing you can do. 
I would be a helicopter mom if I could.  I like to be in control and make sure everything turns out the way it should (according to me).  Letting go with Turbo has been difficult.  It's hard to let him grow up and be independent.  And it starts as soon as they can crawl.  Little boys (and girls, I've heard) start moving away from you and being their own person. 
If I let go I lose control and he may be able to do things that would make me look like a bad mother.  But I have to let go and let him be himself.  He always surprises me and acts way better than I expect him to.  I have to remember my job is not to control him but to teach him, let him try and sometimes fail and pick himself back up and try again.  That's what life is all about.  But it is oh, so hard to do. 
The first time this was really brought to my attention was at kindergarten screening. I had to sit there and watch with out guiding or warning or really helping Turbo as he moved through the stations and answered questions and did activities with the various testers that were there.  He did well and passed but it was so hard for me to not tell him to settle down and answer the questions and not mess around. You know, be Mom the Warner and Guardian of Good Behavior. 
Turbo did fine and still is doing fine, away from me and my wannabe controlling ways.  It gives me a thrill when I get  report from a teacher or aide at Turbo's school at how well Turbo does or how much they like him.  I gotta be doing something right--even if it is just letting go so Turbo can be himself.  Now I just have to let go again with Bruiser--but he seems to be holdiong on a bit tighter than Turbo ever did.
I was holding on tight, but...letting go of my boy made him stronger and a better person--even if he's still a work in progress.
I'm also linking this with Shell's Pour Your Heart Out Thursdays.

8 comments:

C.Mom said...

It is so hard to let them go! But you are right, they are amazing and resilient and grow so much when we let them!

Tarunita said...

Its difficult to let them go but then at times it becomes important.

Thanks for sharing!

http://dwivedi2326.blogspot.com/2010/08/thanks-for-loving-me.html

thesavingmomparents said...

Such a great lesson for moms! Thanks for reminding me.
~Jessica

shortmama said...

It is definitely so hard to let go and not try to control their every move!

Shell said...

Oh, I hear you! My oldest starts kindergarten tomorrow and I have to let him go!

Dixie Bell Designs said...

It is hard to let them go. I don't have kids of my own yet, but I even feel like this with my niece and nephew. I always want to tell them exactly what to do/how to act but I really think they grow stronger and more independent if you try NOT to do that. It's tough.

Lourie said...

My baby is in kindergarten. My last. I still stare at him in disbelief that he is in school learning letters, numbers, words and all that stuff. To me, he is still my baby. Yes, it is very hard to let go.

Heather said...

Ugh, my grandson just recently decided he doesn't want to hold my hand anymore. Heatbreaking, but soo proud of him. They grow up way too fast!

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